Essay: The power of ignoring toxic people

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"Better to meet a she-bear robbed of its cubs than to confront a fool immersed in folly." - Wise King Solomon, Proverbs 17:12 (NRSV)

People with toxic personality traits, annoying people and enemies can distract you from worthwhile pursuits if you let them. Often it is best to ignore them as time is a valuable commodity (See: Time management). See also: Friend, ally, annoyer or adversary quadrant

In addition, it is better to spend one's time with achievement oriented people due to the opportunity cost of not being around more edifying people (See: Cut toxic people out of your life and replace them with edifying achievers who inspire you).

The Thomas-Kilmann model of negotiation/conflict resolution says that if a goal is of no/minimal/small importance and if the relationship is of no/minimal/small importance, then the best course of action is to ignore the person/persons.[1]

Quotes related to avoiding contact with toxic people, annoyers and enemies as much as possible and not being overly concerned with them or being overly concerned with the opinions of others

  • “Winners have no interest or association in the opinions, actions or affairs of losers.” - Jeffrey Fry
  • "Those of low estate are but a breath, those of high estate are a delusion; in the balances they go up; they are together lighter than a breath." - King Solomon, Psalm 62:9 (NRSV)
  • "Better to meet a she-bear robbed of its cubs than to confront a fool immersed in folly." - Wise King Solomon, Proverbs 17:12 (NRSV)
  • "The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.” - William James
  • "The less you respond to negative people, the more powerful your life will become.” – Robert E. Baine, American pastor and businessman
  • "Research indicates that being around clever friends, family members, colleagues and others can increase your IQ by several points. Cut out people in your life who are willfully illogical and unreasonable, disagreeable and have a sour, malevolent disposition. Such people will make you dumber because you could be talking to more intelligent and wise people. Research indicates that high IQ people are more cooperative than low IQ people." - Anonymous[2]
  • "Showing a toxic person that you could care less about their nonsensical opinions by totally ignoring them and that their absence in your life is not missed and is a great blessing is the ultimate insult to their oversized egos. Don't seek revenge. Living a more forgiving, joyous, peaceful, productive, achievement oriented and victorious life and moving on with your life is far more important. This is easy to do once you learn to be more assertive and not be overly concerned about the opinions of others." - Anonymous
  • "Avoid discussions with pathological liars as they do not care about the truth. So telling them the truth is often unfruitful because they resist it. And when they tell you things, you don't know if those things are true given their propensity to lie. In addition, the Bible says that bad company corrupts good morals." - Anonymous
  • "Avoid gossipers - especially men who are girly gossipers. Associating with them tells them that their behavior is socially acceptable when it is not. They are also inherently untrustworthy and will never make a good friend." - Anonymous
  • "If a loathsome, mean-spirited man purposefully engages in personal attacks against you which he knows is untrue, flee his presence. Life is too short to waste your time responding to such a person. And other people invariably lack respect for him so his attacks on you are very inconsequential." - Anonymous
  • "Narcissists who engage in narcissistic rivalry, denigrate people and call others dumb are more likely to have an IQ below 115. This is a classic case of the Dunning-Kruger effect. Remember this when you come across a self-described expert telling you how stupid and ignorant you are about a subject area and how you need his mentorship." - Anonymous [3]
  • "Ignoring a malevolent narcissist will crush their oversized and fragile ego like a tin can. Often they will try endless manipulation tactics in a desperate and frantic attempt to capture your attention again. But don't placate a malevolent narcissist's ego by giving them something they don't deserve. Ignoring a narcissist will teach them humility and at this crossroad, they may engage in self-reflection and amend their narcissistic ways." - Anonymous
  • "I hear you knocking, but you can't come in. I hear you knocking, go back where you been." - The rhythm and blues song I Hear You Knocking written by American musician Dave Bartholomew.
  • "Never retreat. Never explain. Get it done and let them howl." - Benjamin Jowett, English tutor and administrative reformer at the University of Oxford, a theologian, and Anglican cleric
  • "Move not unless you see an advantage; use not your troops unless there is something to be gained; fight not unless the position is critical." - Sun Tzu
  • "Supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting." - Sun Tzu
  • "It's more important to outthink your enemy than outfight him." - Sun Tzu
  • What is essential in war is victory, not prolonged operations." - Sun Tzu
  • "There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare." - Sun Tzu
  • "And therefore those skilled in war bring the enemy to the field of battle and are not brought there by him." - Sun Tzu


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  1. ↑ Conflict resolution Strategies, Indeed
  2. ↑ Hive Mind: The Synergistic Effects of Being Around Really Smart People by Steven Handel
  3. ↑ Highly intelligent grandiose narcissists are less prone to narcissistic rivalry, PsyPost, June 22, 2023
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