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→Divorce, single-parent households and its negative effects on children
The [[Heritage Foundation]]'s article [https://www.heritage.org/crime-and-justice/report/the-real-root-causes-violent-crime-the-breakdown-marriage-family-and The Real Root Causes of Violent Crime: The Breakdown of Marriage, Family, and Community] points out that the divorce is a causal factor for violent crime.
The [[Heritage Foundation]]'s article [https://www.heritage.org/crime-and-justice/report/the-real-root-causes-violent-crime-the-breakdown-marriage-family-and The Real Root Causes of Violent Crime: The Breakdown of Marriage, Family, and Community] points out that the divorce is a causal factor for violent crime.
== Lowering the divorce rate ==
Alarmed at high rates of divorce within the Christian community, the Family Research Council tried to reverse that trend. They found that 85 percent of Christian couples either had no premarital counseling or only met once with their pastor. Considering this to be unacceptable, they put together programs that require a minimum of 4 months premarital preparation including the taking of a premarital inventory and meeting with mentor couples. This caused divorce rates to drop by 30% to 50% for those couples who adhered to the program.<ref>''Southern California Christian Times'', Feb 2000, Pg 14</ref>
== Poor communication/interpersonal skills and divorce ==
In 2021, Sandra Aponte, MA, RMHCI wrote the article ''The 4 Communication Styles That Lead To Divorce With 90% Accuracy'' which indicated:
{{Cquote|The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are considered metaphorical figures in the New Testament’s final book of Revelation. Written down by John of Patmos after receiving a vision from God, they detail pestilence, war, famine, and death — kicking off a divine countdown for the end of the world and the Last Judgement.
Inspired by the ominous signs of this biblical vision, Dr. John Gottman describes his divorce-predicting research by the same name. More specifically, the communication styles that predicted the end of a relationship with [https://www.gottman.com/about/research/couples/ 90% accuracy]. His incredible research was completed with the assistance of 3,000 couples — who he followed and studied for over 20 years. As such, he was able to predict which couples would stay together, and which ones would end up divorcing within 6 years of the wedding.
The four communication styles were:
*Criticism: when you attack or criticize the character of your partner
*Defensiveness: a response to criticism — it is when you come up with excuses and play the victim
*Contempt: when you make your partner feel worthless through disrespect and non-verbal cues
*Stonewalling: a response to contempt — it is when you shut down, stop responding to your partner and completely withdraw<ref>''[https://medium.com/youmeus/the-4-communication-styles-that-lead-to-divorce-with-90-accuracy-c36ea6f8f2c9 The 4 Communication Styles That Lead To Divorce With 90% Accuracy]'' by Sandra Aponte, MA, RMHCI </ref>}}
== Primary Biblical Statements==
== Primary Biblical Statements==