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→Personality disorders and divorce
Alarmed at high rates of divorce within the Christian community, the Family Research Council tried to reverse that trend. They found that 85 percent of Christian couples either had no premarital counseling or only met once with their pastor. Considering this to be unacceptable, they put together programs that require a minimum of 4 months premarital preparation including the taking of a premarital inventory and meeting with mentor couples. This caused divorce rates to drop by 30% to 50% for those couples who adhered to the program.<ref>''Southern California Christian Times'', Feb 2000, Pg 14</ref>
Alarmed at high rates of divorce within the Christian community, the Family Research Council tried to reverse that trend. They found that 85 percent of Christian couples either had no premarital counseling or only met once with their pastor. Considering this to be unacceptable, they put together programs that require a minimum of 4 months premarital preparation including the taking of a premarital inventory and meeting with mentor couples. This caused divorce rates to drop by 30% to 50% for those couples who adhered to the program.<ref>''Southern California Christian Times'', Feb 2000, Pg 14</ref>
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[[Narcissism]] is excessive [[love]] of oneself.
[[Narcissistic personality disorder]] (NPD) entails behaviors and attitudes that are designed to preserve a self-image of perfection, entitlement, and superiority.<ref>[https://www.amazon.com/Children-Self-Absorbed-Grown-ups-Getting-Narcissistic/dp/1572245611/ref=pd_cp_b_2?pf_rd_p=413864201&pf_rd_s=center-41&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=0553381407&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=17W9J5MNJH0ERQZ8TGHR#reader Chilrden of the Self-Absorbed] by Nina W. Brown.</ref>
According the [[Cleveland Clinic]]:
{{Cquote|Experts aren’t sure how common NPD is. According to research data, between 0.5% and 5% of people in the U.S. may have it. Between 50% and 75% of cases affect men and people assigned male at birth (AMAB).
However, many people hide narcissistic beliefs or behaviors (informally known as “covert narcissism”). Because of that, it’s hard to estimate how many people truly have NPD.<ref>[https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/9742-narcissistic-personality-disorder Narcissitic personality disorder], Cleveland Clinic</ref>}}
NPD often goes undiagnosed because many people with the condition are reluctant they have issues with narcissism because they think that their problems associated with the condition are all about everyone else and not about them<ref>[https://www.psycom.net/personality-disorders/narcissistic Tell Me All I Need to Know About Narcissistic Personality Disorder What's to know about codependent relationships?], Psycom.net</ref> Due to what they they perceive as insults to self-esteem, it is often difficult for NPD patients to accept and follow through with treatment.<ref>[https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662#:~:text=People%20with%20narcissistic%20personality%20disorder%20may%20not%20want%20to%20think,or%20another%20mental%20health%20problem. Narcissistic personality disorder], Mayo Clinic</ref>
A codependent personality is someone who is people pleaser in an unhealthy way due to factors such as low self-worth, fear of rejection and fear of not being in a romantic relationship.<ref>[https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/321158#Put-a-little-more-effort-into-paying-attention]</ref><ref>[https://psychcentral.com/disorders/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists The Give and Take Between Narcissistic and Codependent Personalities], Psychcentral.com</ref> The Psychcentral.com article ''The Give and Take Between Narcissistic and Codependent Personalities'' indicates: "There is often an attraction between individuals with codependent tendencies and those with narcissistic tendencies. This pair may connect for a variety of reasons, including the mutual need to feel needed. The codependent person tends to give continuously, while the narcissistic person tends to take. These two personalities have a lot in common, but their differences can make their relationship unhealthy or even toxic.<ref>[https://psychcentral.com/disorders/the-dance-between-codependents-narcissists The Give and Take Between Narcissistic and Codependent Personalities], Psychcentral.com</ref>
== Narcissism and invididuals who have multiple divorces ==
''See also:'' [[Narcissism and individuals who have had multiple divorces]] and [[Narcissistic personality disorder]] and [[Narcissistic rage]] and [[Narcissism]]
[[File:Angry man on the phone.jpg|thumbnail|375px|left|[[Narcissistic rage]] is an outburst of intense anger or silence that can happen to someone with [[narcissistic personality disorder]].<ref>[https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/narcissistic-rage ''What Is Narcissistic Rage, and What’s the Best Way to Deal with It?''], Healthline.com</ref>]]
The abstract for journal article ''Personality characteristics of Divorce-Prone individuals: A preliminary clinical study'' published in the journal ''Contemporary Family Therapy'' indicates:
{{Cquote|This study focuses on Divorce-Prone individuals and the question of why some persons fail in one marriage after another. The authors studied 12 individuals who had each been divorced two or more times. They found that the cases fell into one of three broad and overlapping groups. The groups have been called the Self-Involved [[Narcissism|Narcissists]], the Compliant Depressed, and the Casualties of Life's Vicissitudes. The individuals and the groups demonstrate a different etiology, different treatment problems, and a very different prognosis.<ref>''[https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF00891873 Personality characteristics of Divorce-Prone individuals: A preliminary clinical study]'' by Robert M. Counts MD & Anita Sacks MSW, volume 8, pages111–123 (1986)</ref>}}
According to the psychologist Holly Parker who teaches the course "The Psychology of Close Relationships" at [[Harvard University]], "Research does suggest that people who marry multiple times are more likely (than people who do not marry multiple times) to have personality traits and issues with emotional health that make it difficult to maintain satisfying, long-term relationships. That can mean, even if you're not looking for anything lasting, you won't have much fun with a narcissist whose self-absorption and emotional detachment helped end several marriages."<ref>[https://web.archive.org/web/20190808110458/https://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/ct-xpm-2013-01-16-sc-fam-0115-dating-divorced-20130115-story.html Dating in an age of multiple divorces] by Richard Asa, ''Chicago Tribune'', January 16, 2013</ref>
== Poor communication/interpersonal skills and divorce ==
== Poor communication/interpersonal skills and divorce ==