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== Quotes on narcissism being antithetical to love ==

== Quotes on narcissism being antithetical to love ==

“The main condition for the achievement of love is the overcoming of one's narcissism. The narcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as real only that which exists within oneself, while the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous to one. The opposite pole to narcissism is [[objectivity]]; it is the faculty to see other people and things as they are, objectively, and to be able to separate this objective picture from a picture which is formed by one's desires and fears.” ― Erich Fromm, ''The Art of Loving''<ref>[https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/narcissism Narcissism quote], Goodreads.com</ref>

“The main condition for the achievement of [[love]] is the overcoming of one's narcissism. The narcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as real only that which exists within oneself, while the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous to one. The opposite pole to narcissism is [[objectivity]]; it is the faculty to see other people and things as they are, objectively, and to be able to separate this objective picture from a picture which is formed by one's desires and fears.” ― Erich Fromm, ''The Art of Loving''<ref>[https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/narcissism Narcissism quote], Goodreads.com</ref>

"The faculty to think objectively is reason; the emotional attitude behind reason is that of humility. To be objective, to use one's reason, is possible only if one has achieved an attitude of humility, if one has emerged from the dreams of omniscience and omnipotence which one has as a child. Love, being dependent on the relative absence of narcissism, requires the development of [[humility]], objectivity and [[reason]].

"The faculty to think objectively is [[reason]]; the emotional attitude behind reason is that of humility. To be objective, to use one's reason, is possible only if one has achieved an attitude of [[humility]], if one has emerged from the dreams of [[omniscience]] and [[omnipotence]] which one has as a child. Love, being dependent on the relative absence of narcissism, requires the development of humility, objectivity and reason.

I must try to see the difference between my picture of a person and his behavior, as it is narcissistically distorted, and the person's reality as it exists regardless of my interests, needs and fears.” ― Erich Fromm, ''The Art of Loving''<ref>[https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/narcissism Narcissism quote], Goodreads.com</ref>

I must try to see the difference between my picture of a person and his behavior, as it is narcissistically distorted, and the person's reality as it exists regardless of my interests, needs and fears.” ― Erich Fromm, ''The Art of Loving''<ref>[https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/narcissism Narcissism quote], Goodreads.com</ref>