Changes

While I am personally convinced that marriage is ordained by God, and not man, and thus have no "licenses" of marriage, I have been a practicing patriarchal Christian for over a decade.  No marriage, of course, is easy, and polygyny is no different in that regard.  There are certainly practical and legalistic issues of concern, but arguably no more so than our culture of practicing "serial polygamists" has already fostered.  Ultimately, the ironic difference in our society between "legal" and "accepted" is that a man who offers to Biblically cover, honor, and protect more than a single spouse may be prosecuted by 'the State', but a man who "uses them and loses them" (even from the Oval Office) will be winked at and admired.

While I am personally convinced that marriage is ordained by God, and not man, and thus have no "licenses" of marriage, I have been a practicing patriarchal Christian for over a decade.  No marriage, of course, is easy, and polygyny is no different in that regard.  There are certainly practical and legalistic issues of concern, but arguably no more so than our culture of practicing "serial polygamists" has already fostered.  Ultimately, the ironic difference in our society between "legal" and "accepted" is that a man who offers to Biblically cover, honor, and protect more than a single spouse may be prosecuted by 'the State', but a man who "uses them and loses them" (even from the Oval Office) will be winked at and admired.

My wives acknowledge the difficulties.  All of us studied the Scripture "for ourselves" before making the second commitment, and have continued to study the Word and grow in understanding of His plan for marriage and our house.  My first wife was, and is, accepting of the Biblical choice involved, and supportive of our family as it has grown.  "In laws" have taken longer in most cases, but have eventually come to recognize at a minimum the commitment we share, and the consistency of the Biblical position.  My second wife has borne the concern of being the "other woman", and suffered with issues of insurance, inheritance, and so on; nevertheless, those things are not insurmountable.

My wives acknowledge the difficulties.  All of us studied the Scripture "for ourselves" before making the second commitment, and have continued to study the Word and grow in understanding of His plan for marriage and our house.  My first wife was, and is, accepting of the Biblical choice involved, and supportive of our family as it has grown.  "In laws" have taken longer in most cases, but have eventually come to recognize at a minimum the commitment we share, and some the consistency of the Biblical position.  My second wife has borne the concern of being the "other woman", and suffered with issues of insurance, inheritance, and so on; nevertheless, those things are not insurmountable.

I do not believe jealousy to be the issue that contemporary culture (except on some TV) attempts to paint it.  Biblical guidance and a prayerful attitude of proper headship and covering are key, on all parts.  I often joke that one thing I have learned is that each woman MUST have her own kitchen.

I do not believe jealousy to be the issue that contemporary culture (except on some TV) attempts to paint it.  Biblical guidance and a prayerful attitude of proper headship and covering are key, on all parts.  I often joke that one thing I have learned is that each woman MUST have her own kitchen.