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[[File:Loser.png|thumbnail|right|350px|Learn how to spot a loser. 
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Being spiritually strong and [[virtue|virtuous]] is the foundation that good [[habit]]s, [[mental toughness]], and physical fitness built on.  

And if you want to help your fellow man and have a life of personal [[achievement|achievements]], due to power of [[social influence]], being around spiritually strong and virtuous people is far better than being around immoral, toxic, [[Essay: Are you a loser? Can you spot a loser? Remove the losers from your life now!|losers]]. 

An [[achievement orientation]] is when an individual's inclination and attitude toward the development and validation of one's ability to [[Achievement|achieve]] is high. A person who exhibits achievement orientation is passionate about achieving their [[Goal setting|goals]] and their overall success. Having strong [[motivation]] is a prerequisite for having an achievement orientation. It often also involves having a strong set of [[leadership]] skills rather than following others.<ref>[https://study.com/academy/lesson/achievement-orientation-definition-example-quiz.html Achievement orientation]</ref> 

Achievers are not made overnight. It is a process. A person needs to weed out the loser mindset in their lives to develop an achievement [[mindset]] and become a winner.

So what are the telltale signs that you are a loser or that someone else is a loser? If you took the [[Essay: Quantifying a winning mindset|Quantifying a winning mindset]] test, would it reveal that you have a winning [[mindset]] and that you are a winner? See the test at: [[Essay: Quantifying a winning mindset]]

See: 

*[[Essay: The power of strong and good friendships|The power of strong and good friendships]]
*[[Essay: The power of upgrading your social network and reading excellent works|The power of upgrading your social network and reading excellent works]]
*[[Essay: Cut toxic people out of your life and replace them with edifying achievers who inspire you|Cut toxic people out of your life and replace them with edifying achievers who inspire you]]
*[[Essay: Are you a loser? Can you spot a loser? Remove the losers from your life now!|Are you a loser? Can you spot a loser? Remove the losers from your life now!]]
*[[Essay: Avoid people who are negative, angry, bitter, and unhappy "wet blankets"|Avoid people who are negative, angry, bitter, and unhappy "wet blankets"]]
*[[Essay: The power of ignoring toxic people|The power of ignoring toxic people]]
*[[Essay: Toxic gamma males. Keep them out of your life and organizations|Toxic gamma males. Keep them out of your life and organizations]]
== The keys to spiritual growth and Christian maturity ==

See: [[Essay: The keys to spiritual growth and Christian maturity|The keys to spiritual growth and Christian maturity]]
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[[Image:Jesus resurrected.jpg|center|230px|thumb|"The [[Resurrection of Jesus Christ|Resurrection]]" by Carl Heinrich Bloch.]]
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Christianity.com on the importance of spiritual maturity:
{{Cquote|Spiritual maturity is something that should be a priority for every [[Christian]]. It’s important in our lives for how we serve God, interact with other people, and take care of our families.

Many people claim to be Christians, but there is a difference between being a fan of Jesus and a follower of Jesus.

Our spiritual maturity can define what side of the fence we are on. To be a follower of Jesus is to deny yourself, take up your cross, and follow him. “Then he called the crowd to him along with his disciples and said: ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me’” (Mark 8:34).<ref>[https://www.christianity.com/wiki/christian-life/why-is-spiritual-maturity-important.htmlWhy Is Spiritual Maturity Important?], Christianity.com</ref>}}

=== Importance of spiritual maturity and the keys to spiritual maturity ===

*[https://www.christianity.com/wiki/christian-life/why-is-spiritual-maturity-important.htmlWhy Is Spiritual Maturity Important?]

*[https://thisredeemedlife.org/5-keys-to-spiritual-maturity/ 5 keys to spiritual maturity]

=== Articles on spiritual growth ===
[[Image:St Paul Preaching.jpg|right|thumb|325px|[[St. Paul]] defends his preaching (Giovanni Ricco).
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The Apostle Paul taught: "Do not be deceived:‘Bad company ruins good morals.’" (1 Corinthians 15:33).]]
*[https://towerviewkc.com/10-keys-to-spiritual-growth 10 Keys to Spiritual Growth], Towerview Baptist Church

*[https://unlockingscripture.com/keys-to-spiritual-growth/ 7 Keys To Spiritual Growth], Unlocking Scripture website

*[https://store.ligonier.org/5-keys-to-spiritual-growth-2005-national-conference-download Keys to spiritual growth], Ligonier Ministries

*[https://www.amazon.com/Keys-Spiritual-Growth-Pamphlet-Discipleship/dp/1628625244 Keys to spiritual growth pamphlet]

*[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aet19cpJV_Q Paul Washer - Four Biblical Keys to Spiritual Growth] - Video

=== Biblical teaching on: Bad company corrupts good character ===

The [[Apostle Paul]] taught: "Do not be deceived:‘Bad company ruins good morals.’" (1 Corinthians 15:33).

'''Videos:'''

*[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tg5k4_lDIz8 How does bad company corrupt good character?]

*[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DzNWZLV7p8 Bad Company Corrupts Good Morals (1 Corinthians 15:33)] - Grace Community Church

*[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C22i313Z6Ws Who Are Your Friends?]

*[https://www.youtube.com/shorts/44SCYtnnF2w Bad company corrupts good morals]

== Mentally strong people/men vs. mentally weak people/men ==
[[File:Chuck Norris second picture.jpg|225px|thumb|right|“The 3 key components for success are as follows: psychological preparedness, physical conditioning, mental toughness.”- [[Chuck Norris]]<ref>[https://quotefancy.com/quote/1346317/Chuck-Norris-The-3-key-components-for-success-are-as-follows-Psychological-Preparedness Chuck Norris quote], Quote Fancy website</ref> ]]

''See also:'' [[Mental toughness]] and [[Psychological resilience]]

According to the company Mental Toughness Partners:
{{Cquote|[[Mental toughness|Mental Toughness]] is a personality trait that determines your ability to perform consistently under stress and pressure, and is closely related to qualities such as character, [[Psychological resilience|resilience]], [[Grit (personality trait)|grit]] and [[perseverance]].

Peter Clough, Professor of Applied Psychology at Manchester Metropolitan University and a pioneer on research into Mental Toughness further describes a mentally tough person as “someone who is comfortable in their own skin, can take whatever comes along in their stride and mostly enjoy the challenge”.<ref>[https://www.mentaltoughness.partners/what-is-mental-toughness/#:~:text=Mental%20Toughness%20is%20a%20personality,%2C%20resilience%2C%20grit%20and%20perseverance. What is Mental Toughness?]</ref>}}

=== Articles/videos on me mentally strong people/men vs. mentally weak people/men ===

"Masculine women, feminine men, which is the rooster which is the hen? It's hard to tell 'em apart today." - Edgar Leslie's and James V. Monaco's 1920s song [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbjmSS6LZDGocgeTkEkOC97CwnmV8GwpU Masculine women, feminine men]

*[https://revolutionofman.org/no-time-for-weak-men/ No Time for Weak Men]

*[https://www.vulta.blog/the-difference-between-a-strong-and-weak-man/ The difference between a strong and weak man]

*[https://www.forbes.com/sites/cherylsnappconner/2013/11/18/mentally-strong-people-the-13-things-they-avoid/?sh=2e05a1e46d75 Mentally Strong People: The 13 Things They Avoid], Forbes 

*[https://www.betterup.com/blog/mental-strength When tough isn't enough, build mental strength. Here's how]

*[https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/9-things-mentally-strong-people-do-weak-dont-farookh-sensei 9 Things Mentally Strong People Do That Mentally Weak People Don't]

*[https://www.eviemagazine.com/post/how-to-tell-if-a-man-is-weak-or-strong How To Tell If A Man Is Weak Or Strong]

Videos: 

*[https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbjmSS6LZDGpdbwgN0ViOzoNRf0sjgBEW Being weak vs. being strong - video playlist], video playlist
*[https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbjmSS6LZDGr9JEJcIMKAqVruNSXX3Wbz Mental toughness] - Video playlist

=== Articles/videos on mental toughness ===

*[[Mental toughness#Growing mental toughness|Articles/videos on mental toughness ]]

== Thou shall think clearly and creatively. Thou shall not be illogical and be closeminded  ==

''See also:'' [[Critical thinking]] and [[Creativity]] and [[Openness]] and [[User:Conservative/Cognitive performance|Increasing cognitive performance]]

[[Jesus]] said to him, "You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind." 

A mind is a terrible thing to waste! 

[[File:Aristotle.jpg|thumb|250px|center|[[Aristotle]] ]]
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[[File:Socrates statue.jpg|thumb|350px|center|[[Socrates]] ]]
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[[Image:Raphael.jpg|center|thumb|[[Plato]] ]]
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=== Critical thinking ===

''See also:'' [[Critical thinking]]

[[Critical thinking]] is an approach to gathering data and making inferences about the world. It draws heavily on ideas from the [[scientific revolution]] and advocates an approach of data acquisition and rational assessment. When applying critical thinking, the goal is to collect as much relevant [[data]] as possible, assess that data for accuracy, and finally use the data to arrive at the most justified conclusions possible.

===== Favorite book on critical thinking =====

*''The Thinker's Way'' by John Chaffee, Ph.D., Little, Brown and Company; First Edition (October 1, 1998)

=== Favorite website dealing with thinking, critical thinking and logical fallacies ===
[[File:Statue of Leonardo DaVinci in Uffizi Alley, Florence, Italy.jpg|thumbnail|right|300px|Statue of [[Leonardo da Vinci]] in Tuscany, [[Italy]].]]
*[https://www.schoolofthought.org/ School of thought website]

=== Logical fallacies ===

*[https://yourlogicalfallacyis.com/ YourLogicalFallacyis.com website]

*[https://www.fallacyfiles.org/ Fallacy Files website]

=== Creativity ===

*[[Creativity]]
*[[Openness]]
*[https://guides.library.vcu.edu/creativity/websites Creativity and innovation websites]
*[https://blog.richiebartlett.com/Science_%E7%A7%91%E5%AD%A6/Creative-thinking-tools/ Creative thinking tools]
*[https://sites.google.com/view/creativity-skills-101/home Creativity articles/resources]
*[[Books on creativity]]

=== Cognitive distortions/biases ===

*[https://psychcentral.com/lib/cognitive-distortions-negative-thinking#list-and-examples 15 common cognitive distortions and examples of each]

*[https://arfamiliesfirst.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/Cognitive-Distortions.pdf Checklist of cognitive distortions]

*[https://positivepsychology.com/cognitive-distortions/ Cognitive Distortions: 22 Examples & Worksheets (& PDF)]

*[https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/in-practice/201301/50-common-cognitive-distortions 50 Common Cognitive Distortions]

*[https://seths.blog/2023/09/the-santa-problem/ The Santa Problem] by Seth Godin

== Due to the power of social influence, being around being around overweight people makes you more likely to become overweight ==

See also: [[Social influence]] and [[Obesity]] and [[Mental toughness and weight loss]]

[[File:Obesity.JPG|thumbnail|right|275px|Most individuals are overweight due to their dietary and exercise [[habit]]s.<ref>
*[http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/obesity/DS00314/DSECTION=causes Causes of obesity] - [[Mayo Clinic]]
*[http://www.motleyhealth.com/fitness/how-much-exercise-is-needed-to-get-fit-and-lose-weight How much exercise is needed to get fit and lose weight]
*[http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-causes/genes-and-obesity/ Genes Are Not Destiny] - [[Harvard University]] School of Public health
*[https://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2013/09/04/the-6-weight-loss-tips-that-science-actually-knows-work/ The 6 Weight-Loss Tips That Science Actually Knows Work] - ''Forbes'', April 9, 2013
*[https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16002825 Long-term weight loss maintenance], ''American Journal of Clinical Nutrition'', 2005 July; 82(1 Suppl):222S-225S.
*[http://www.simplefitnesssolutions.com/articles/weight_loss.htm Strength Training For Weight Loss Success] by Deborah L. Mullen, CSCS
*[http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/weight-loss/in-depth/weight-loss/art-20047752 Weight loss strategies for success] - Mayo Clinic
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According to ScienceDirect and the ''International Encyclopedia of Education'': [[Social influence]] refers to the phenomenon where an individual's behaviors, opinions, or beliefs change as a result of their network ties, often becoming more similar to those with whom they are connected."<ref>[https://www.sciencedirect.com/topics/social-sciences/social-influence#:~:text=Social%20influence%20refers%20to%20the,with%20whom%20they%20are%20connected. Social Influence], Science Direct</ref><ref>International Encyclopedia of Education (Fourth Edition) 2023, Pages 430-440</ref> 

Most individuals are overweight/[[obese]] due to their dietary and exercise habits.<ref>
*[http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/obesity/DS00314/DSECTION=causes Causes of obesity] - [[Mayo Clinic]]
*[http://www.motleyhealth.com/fitness/how-much-exercise-is-needed-to-get-fit-and-lose-weight How much exercise is needed to get fit and lose weight]
*[http://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-causes/genes-and-obesity/ Genes Are Not Destiny] - [[Harvard University]] School of Public health
*[http://www.forbes.com/sites/alicegwalton/2013/09/04/the-6-weight-loss-tips-that-science-actually-knows-work/ The 6 Weight-Loss Tips That Science Actually Knows Work] - ''Forbes'', April 9, 2013
*[http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16002825 Long-term weight loss maintenance], ''American Journal of Clinical Nutrition'', 2005 July; 82(1 Suppl):222S-225S.
*[http://www.simplefitnesssolutions.com/articles/weight_loss.htm Strength Training For Weight Loss Success] by Deborah L. Mullen, CSCS
</ref> So if someone is overweight, they chose to be (See also: [[Mental toughness and weight loss]]).

Being overweight is a significant health risk (See: [[Health risks linked to obesity]]). 

According to the UCLA Health, "In March of 2023, the World Obesity Federation (WOF) released a [https://www.worldobesityday.org/assets/downloads/World_Obesity_Atlas_2023_Report.pdf report] stating that by 2035 over 4 billion people – more than half the world’s population – will be obese."<ref> [https://www.uclahealth.org/news/worldwide-obesity-rise Worldwide Obesity on the Rise], UCLA Health website</ref>
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 31% of United States adults aged 20 and older were considered overweight in 2017-2018, while 42% were obese.<ref>[https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/search/research-news/12328/ About 74 percent of adults in the U.S. are overweight, according to the CDC]</ref> This means that roughly 74% of adults in the US were overweight or obese. However, some say that obesity rates are even higher, with HSPH.Harvard.edu estimating that 69% of US adults are overweight or obese.<ref>[https://www.hsph.harvard.edu/obesity-prevention-source/obesity-rates-worldwide/ Adult Obesity: A Global Look at Rising Obesity Rates], Harvard School of Public Health]</ref>

The article ''You’re NOT The Average Of The Five People You Surround Yourself With'' states:
{{Cquote|The first major study on the breadth of social influence was conducted by Nicholas Christakis and James Fowler. The duo was examined the data set from the Framingham Heart Study, one of the largest and longest running health studies ever, when they realized that it covered more than just the heart health of the participants. They were studied for all sorts of medical conditions, and during interviews they were probed with all sorts of demographic questions, including questions about family members and friends.

So they started analyzing the data to see what the effects of family members and friends was on something fairly easy and objective: [[obesity]]. According to their results, if a friend of yours becomes obese, you yourself are 45 percent more likely than chance to gain weight over the next two to four years. More surprisingly, however, Christakis and Fowler found that if a friend of your friend becomes obese, your likelihood of gaining weight increases by about 20 percent — even if you don’t know that friend of a friend. The effect continues one more person out. If a friend of the friend of your friend develops obesity, you are still 10 percent more likely than random chance to gain weight as well.

Your friends make you fat, but so do their friends, and so do their friends of friends.<ref>[https://archive.ph/TDJEJ#selection-245.0-245.68 ''You’re NOT The Average Of The Five People You Surround Yourself With'']</ref>}}

== Thoughtful, muscular, men with machismo don't care about the opinions of weak, big, fat, opinionated losers ==

One of the definitions of [[machismo]] is an "exhilarating sense of power or strength."<ref>[https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/machismo Machismo]</ref>

[[File:Thoughftul, muscular, men with machismo don't care about the opinions of weak, big, fat, opinionated losers.png|center|thumbnail|600px|Thoughftul, muscular, men with [[machismo]] don't care about the opinions of weak, big, fat, opinionated losers who are candy-a**es. 
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“Winners have no interest or association in the opinions, actions or affairs of losers.” - Jeffrey Fry
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*[[Mental toughness and weight loss]]
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*[[Obesity and its negative impact on intelligence]]
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*[[Consumption of ultra-processed foods and brain impairment]]
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*[[Essay: Quantifying a winning mindset|Quantifying a winning mindset]]
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*[[Essay: The power of ignoring toxic people|The power of ignoring toxic people]] 
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[[File:Matador1.jpg|alt=machismo|thumbnail|center|400px|Please read: [[Essay: Machismo and weight loss. Most bullfighters are thin|Machismo and weight loss. Most bullfighters are thin]]
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== General essays and articles about life  ==

*[[Essay: Quantifying a winning mindset|Quantifying a winning mindset]]
*[[Essay: Ultimately, losers never win|Ultimately, losers never win]]
*[[Essay: Dirty cowards who throw punches and runaway are not real men|Dirty cowards who throw punches and runaway are not real men]]
*[[Essay: Why do so many people complain about narcissists?|Why do so many people complain about narcissists?]]
*[[Essay: 12 things narcissists hate that make them so irritating to so many people|12 things narcissists hate that make them so irritating to so many people]]
*[[Essay: Why narcissists are terrible forecasters who can't improve their forecasting ability|Why narcissists are terrible forecasters who can't improve their forecasting ability]] (Explains the shortsightedness of narcissists)
*[[Essay: Don't pine for a problem-free life or for "problem child" people to be gone from your life|Don't pine for a problem-free life or for "problem child" people to be gone from your life]]
*[[Essay: The problem with leaders or managers following the advice of Niccolò Machiavelli|The problem with leaders or managers following the advice of Niccolò Machiavelli]]
*[[Essay: Don't believe all the political news "facts" and predictions you read on the internet and see on the news|Don't believe all the political news "facts" and predictions you read on the internet and see on the news]]

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