Self-sabotage

Self-sabotage "is when people make choices that block their success or prevent them from accomplishing their goals. It can happen consciously or unconsciously. Self-sabotaging behaviors can affect our personal and professional success, as well as our mental health."

Causes of self-sabotage

Self-sabotaging behaviour can be a result of poor self-esteem, other negative self-perceptions, fear of failure (avoiding failure in an unhealthy way) or success, fear of attachment as far as relationships, fear of the unknown (See: Courage and Risk and Risk management and Adventure) or other factors. In some cases, self-sabotage may be a unhealthy coping mechanism for dealing with stress or difficult emotions (imposter syndrome)

Overcoming self-sabotage

See also: mindfulness and Self-talk and Positive thinking and Optimism and Negative thinking and Pessismism and Goal setting and Action orientation and Habit and Self-care and Self-compasssion and Values and Virtue and Prioritization and Planning and Accountability partner and Mentor

How to stop self-sabotaging in 8 steps:

1. Notice your behavioral patterns with mindfulness

2. Monitor your self-talk and use positive affirmations. See also: Positive thinking and Optimism and Negative thinking and Pessismism

3. Set achievable goals broken down in smaller steps to gain confidence and monitor your progress to build momentum. Be action oriented.

4. Practice self-care via healthy and helpful habits in order to support your mental and physical health.

5. Reflect on your dreams, values, and priorities in order to do effective planning. See also: Virtue

6. Find an accountability partner and mentor

7. Practice self-compassion

Articles:

• Self-sabotaging: what it is, causes, and how to stop, Clinically reviewed by Dr. Chris Mosunic, PhD, RD, MBA

• Self-Sabotaging: Why Does It Happen, VeryWellMind.com