David Prosen
| A false identity |
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| «By defining myself as a “gay” male, I had taken on a false identity. Any label such as “lesbian,” “bisexual,” or even “homosexual” insinuates a type of person equivalent to male or female. This is simply not true. One is not a same-sex attraction, but instead experiences this attraction.»
— David Prosen[1]
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| Untruths that tend to surface when one accepts homosexuality as an identity |
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David Prosen is a former victim of the ideomotor effect that had mislead him into misbelief that he was "born that way", i.e. that he was born as a so-called "gay" alias sodomite. Later reflections led him to the discovery that he never truly believed he was a man, and yet he didn’t think he was a woman. His integral healing began as he searched out who he really was. After recognizing the erroneous opinion, he now believes that homosexuality was a false identity that he had embraced.[3]
Childish beliefs
Since David Prosen had been attracted to the same gender and this attraction was present from early on in his life without his conscious choice, he used to believe he was a “gay” person that must have been ‘born that way’ and that God must have made him so. Now however he assures this attraction he had to the same gender when he was a little boy was normal and similar to what many boys experience: “Boys look for heroes, role models who they respect and want to emulate. For me, the attraction to men started out with normal admiration but then began to take some dysfunctional turns. As a child, I was often made fun of and told by my peers that I wasn’t like them. This made me question what the difference between us was. At this point, shades of covetousness characterized my admiration. I secretly wondered, ‘If I looked like so-and-so, would I be accepted?’”
Adolescence
In puberty, this attraction or admiration became eroticized. The derogative homosexual label was given to him by his peers, and he yielded to their accusations because he truly did have a sexualized same-sex attraction. Eventually, he embraced this label and called himself “gay.” Although he didn’t freely choose same-sex attractions, he did willfully choose to act upon them. What he now portrays as “decision to sin” brought him intense pain, loneliness, and “separation from God”.
He points out that the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith explained this reality in a statement that observed, “As in every moral disorder, homosexual activity prevents one’s own fulfillment and happiness by acting contrary to the creative wisdom of God. The Church, in rejecting erroneous opinions regarding homosexuality, does not limit personal freedom and dignity realistically and authentically understood.”
A false identity and Conversion
| The tremendous joy when recognizing facts |
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| «I can never adequately express the tremendous joy I felt when I began to internally recognize and accept the fact that I am a man, I am masculine, and I do belong in the world of men. At the same time this recognition occurred to me, my attraction to men continued to decrease drastically and my attraction to women increased.»
— David Prosen[1]
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Eventually, in his brokenness, he responded to the Lord’s loving call to forgiveness and healing and rejected the many lies he believed about himself—especially the one that claimed that he was a “gay” person. Now he encourages everyone to stop using terms of LGBTI gleichschaltung which identify individuals as being their desires or behaviour. When we use terms like "homosexual or heterosexual, gay or lesbian to identify persons as their sexual preferences, we at the same time affirm the lie that individuals can be their desires or behaviors, which is the primary premise that opened the door to accepting the same-sex perverse sexual behavior as normal. Prosen explains the misidentification process well. People are not their behavior or desires; one can with God's help choose not to act on their desires. If we affirm this truth, along with the truth that individuals are either male or female, then it becomes obvious that all other anomalies are socially constructed and not grounded in nature.[5]
References
- ↑ 1.0 1.1 David Prosen (12 Mar 2015). I am not gay… I am David. CUF.org. Retrieved on 13 Feb 2016. “How could a God of love create me this way and then condemn me to hell? I began to do what many other Christians struggling with same-sex attraction do and searched for “pro-gay” theologies for explanations. I desperately wanted to be in a loving relationship with the same gender, but at the same time, I had a gnawing feeling in my heart that this was wrong. Looking back, I believe that my search for truth and struggle against accepting this lifestyle was ultimately the way in which the Holy Spirit convicted me. Still, this gnawing feeling—that same-sex attraction was not God’s plan for my life—was not easy for me to reconcile with because I believed that my sexuality alone was my identity. Ignorance of this distinction is dangerous. My false beliefs regarding my identity deterred me from accepting the conviction in my heart from the Holy Spirit. St. Paul acknowledged this very same process, explaining: Because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator . . . God gave them up to dishonorable passions. Their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in their own persons the due penalty for their error (Rom. 1:25-27).”
- ↑ Alan Medinger (2003). "Calling Oneself ‘gay’ or ‘lesbian’ Clouds one’s Self-Perception", Same-Sex Attraction: A Parent’s Guide. OSFS, St. Augustine’s Press, 173.
- ↑ 3.0 3.1 I am not gay… I am David -- Are people born "gay" or do they choose to be gay?. LifeSiteNews.com (12 Mar 2015). Retrieved on 26 Jun 2016. “Reprinted with permission from MRCTV”
- ↑ Alan Medinger (2009). Growth into Manhood: Resuming the Journey. Crown Publishing Group. ISBN 978-0-30756-901-1.
- ↑ Leeda C. (article by Lita Cosner) (5 Jul 2013). SCOTUS gay marriage rulings: what should we think?. Retrieved on 26 Jun 2016. “I encourage everyone to stop using terms which identify individuals as being their desires or behaviour. When we use terms like "homosexual or heterosexual, gay or lesbian to identify persons as their sexual preferences we affirm the lie, I am my desires or behaviour, which is the primary premise that opened the door to accepting same sex behaviour as normal. I recommend you read "I am Not Gay, I am David" by David Prosen. He explains the misidentification process well. People are not their behaviour or desires, one can with God's help choose not to act on their desires. If we affirm this truth, along with the truth individuals are either male or female all other anomalies are socially constructed not grounded in nature. I was told by a very articulate grade 12 student that gender and sexuality are socially constructed. My response was, I agree that gender confusion and same sex attraction are socially constructed, something happened in the individual's nurture experience to caused these beliefs and desires to develop. Today, the gender variables are multiplying. The headline of the Toronto Now magazine last week was The End of Gender. In Canada you may do as you please, and those who disagree are said to be hateful. I am praying the US will not follow Canada's lead. I am not proud to be a Canadian. I am grateful for my Faith in God and that he has led me to the truth, truth which is well founded in reason.”
