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Essay: The power of ignoring toxic people

"Better to meet a she-bear robbed of its cubs than to confront a fool immersed in folly." - Wise King Solomon, Proverbs 17:12 (NRSV)

People with toxic personality traits, annoying people and enemies can distract you from worthwhile pursuits if you let them. Often it is best to ignore them as time is a valuable commodity (See: Time management). See also: Friend, ally, annoyer or adversary quadrant

In addition, it is better to spend one's time with achievement oriented people due to the opportunity cost of not being around more edifying people (See: Cut toxic people out of your life and replace them with edifying achievers who inspire you).

The Thomas-Kilmann model of negotiation/conflict resolution says that if a goal is of no/minimal/small importance and if the relationship is of no/minimal/small importance, then the best course of action is to ignore the person/persons.[1]

Quotes related to avoiding contact with toxic people, annoyers and enemies as much as possible and not being overly concerned with them or being overly concerned with the opinions of others

See also: Quotes related to ignoring unreasonable critics

  • "Winners focus on winning. Losers focus on winners.” - Eric Thomas
  • "“It is not the critic who counts: not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is no effort without error or shortcoming, but who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause; who, at the best, knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement, and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who knew neither victory nor defeat.” - Theodore Roosevelt
  • "Pay no attention to what the critics say. A statue has never been erected in honor of a critic." - Jean Sibelius
  • "Give no answer to contentious arguments or irresponsible accusations. Let such things "fly out open windows" until they spend themselves." - Stephen Covey
  • "There are some people who always seem to be angry and continuously look for conflict. Walk away; the battle they are fighting isn't with you, it is with themselves." - Unknown
  • “Winners have no interest or association in the opinions, actions or affairs of losers.” - Jeffrey Fry
  • "Those of low estate are but a breath, those of high estate are a delusion; in the balances they go up; they are together lighter than a breath." - King Solomon, Psalm 62:9 (NRSV)
  • “Start ignoring people who threaten your joy. Literally, ignore them. Say nothing. Don't invite any parts of them into your space.” ― Alexandra Elle
  • "Better to meet a she-bear robbed of its cubs than to confront a fool immersed in folly." - Wise King Solomon, Proverbs 17:12 (NRSV)
  • "The less you respond to negative people, the more powerful your life will become.” – Robert E. Baine, American pastor and businessman
  • "Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you." - Zig Ziglar
  • “Learn to brush off criticism as easily as you brush aside hollow compliments.” - Richelle E. Goodrich, Slaying Dragons: Quotes, Poetry, & a Few Short Stories for Every Day of the Year
  • "He who throws dirt always loses ground." - Unknown
  • "You can't let praise or criticism get to you. It's a weakness to get caught up in either one." - John Wooden
  • "You see, I'm sort of independent. I am my own superintendent. And my star is on the ascendant. That's why I don't care. I don't care, I don't care. What they may think of me. I'm happy-go-lucky, they say that I'm plucky. Contented and carefree. I don't care I don't care." - Eva Tanguay song (I Don't Care - Judy Garland).
  • "Criticism is something we can avoid easily by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing." - attributed to Aristotle
  • "It is a thing of no great difficulty to raise objections against another man's oration--nay, it is very easy; but to produce a better in its place is a work extremely troublesome." - Plutarch
  • "Criticism is a privilege that you earn--it shouldn't be your opening move in an interaction." - Malcolm Gladwell
  • "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something sometime in your life." - Winston Churchill
  • "Research indicates that being around clever friends, family members, colleagues and others can increase your IQ by several points. Cut out people in your life who are willfully illogical and unreasonable, disagreeable and have a sour, malevolent disposition. Such people will make you dumber because you could be talking to more intelligent and wise people. Research indicates that high IQ people are more cooperative than low IQ people." - Anonymous[2]
  • "Showing a toxic person that you could care less about their nonsensical opinions by totally ignoring them and that their absence in your life is not missed and is a great blessing is the ultimate insult to their oversized egos. Don't seek revenge. Living a more forgiving, joyous, peaceful, productive, achievement oriented and victorious life and moving on with your life is far more important. This is easy to do once you learn to be more assertive and not be overly concerned about the opinions of others." - Anonymous
  • "Avoid discussions with pathological liars as they do not care about the truth. So telling them the truth is often unfruitful because they resist it. And when they tell you things, you don't know if those things are true given their propensity to lie. In addition, the Bible says that bad company corrupts good morals." - Anonymous
  • "Avoid gossipers - especially men who are girly gossipers. Associating with them tells them that their behavior is socially acceptable when it is not. They are also inherently untrustworthy and will never make a good friend." - Anonymous
  • "If a loathsome, mean-spirited man purposefully engages in personal attacks against you which he knows is untrue, flee his presence. Life is too short to waste your time responding to such a person. And other people invariably lack respect for him so his attacks on you are very inconsequential." - Anonymous
 
Raphael's depiction of Plato in The School of Athens.
  • "Narcissists who engage in narcissistic rivalry, denigrate people and call others dumb are more likely to have an IQ below 115. This is a classic case of the Dunning-Kruger effect. Remember this when you come across a self-described expert telling you how stupid and ignorant you are about a subject area and how you need his mentorship." - Anonymous [3]
  • "Ignoring a malevolent narcissist will crush their oversized and fragile ego like a tin can. Often they will try endless manipulation tactics in a desperate and frantic attempt to capture your attention again. But don't placate a malevolent narcissist's ego by giving them something they don't deserve. Ignoring a narcissist will teach them humility and at this crossroad, they may engage in self-reflection and amend their narcissistic ways." - Anonymous
  • "But instead of spending our lives running towards our dreams, we are often running away from a fear of failure or a fear of criticism." - Eric Wright
  • "Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting." - Emmit Fox
  • "Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but having faults different from your own." -Anonymous
  • "Any jackass can kick a barn down, but it takes a carpenter to build it." - Sam Rayburn
  • "When men speak ill of thee, live so as nobody may believe them." - Plato
  • "There is no defense against criticism except obscurity." - Joseph Addison
  • "The artist doesn't have time to listen to the critics. The ones who want to be writers read the reviews. The ones who want to write don't have the time to read reviews." - William Faulkner
  • "When we judge or criticize another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical." - Anonymous
  • "Don't mind criticism. If it is untrue, disregard it; if unfair, keep from irritation; if it is ignorant, smile; if it is justified, it is not criticism, learn from it." - Anonymous
  • "Never whimper, whine or feel discouraged due to unreasonable critics. Remember, it is the cat that gets hit by a shoe that yelps the loudest. The cat that has a shoe thrown at him that doesn't come remotely close to him is completely unperturbed." - Anonymous
  • "Never retreat. Never explain. Get it done and let them howl." - Benjamin Jowett, English tutor and administrative reformer at the University of Oxford, a theologian, and Anglican cleric
  • "See, you think you got problems with me? But, baby, I don't even think about you. You're mad at everything I do. But, what are you up to? I haven't a clue. 'Cause, baby, you're dead to me, why can't I be dead to you? I think that we both know the truth. You're obsessed, just let it go. You're dead to me." - The song Dead To Me by Kali Uchis
  • "I don't know what you been told. See, I am not your enemy, ooh-oh. But if there's one thing that I know. Is that you ain't a friend to me, ooh-oh. You're dead to me. You're obsessed, just let me go. You're dead to me. I'm not somebody you know. You're dead to me. Could you just leave me alone? You're dead to me. What you say to me? I can't hear a thing... It's okay to disagree, we don't have to be friends." - The song Dead To Me by Kali Uchis
  • "I hear you knocking, but you can't come in. I hear you knocking, go back where you been." - The rhythm and blues song I Hear You Knocking written by American musician Dave Bartholomew.
  • "Supreme excellence consists of breaking the enemy's resistance without fighting." - Sun Tzu
  • "Move not unless you see an advantage; use not your troops unless there is something to be gained; fight not unless the position is critical." - Sun Tzu
  • "It's more important to outthink your enemy than outfight him." - Sun Tzu
  • What is essential in war is victory, not prolonged operations." - Sun Tzu
  • "There is no instance of a country having benefited from prolonged warfare." - Sun Tzu
  • "And therefore those skilled in war bring the enemy to the field of battle and are not brought there by him." - Sun Tzu

Victory is very sweet. It is so much better than being a sour, toxic loser

See also: Quotes about victory and Achievement orientation

 
"In war there is no substitute for victory." - General Douglas MacArthur
  • “Victory is very, very sweet. It tastes better than any dessert you’ve ever had.” - Serena Williams
  • "Accept the challenges so that you can feel the exhilaration of victory." - George S. Patton
  • “Celebrate even small victories.” - H. Jackson Brown Jr.
  • "I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self." - Aristotle
  • "The first and greatest victory is to conquer yourself; to be conquered by yourself is of all things most shameful and vile." - Plato
  • “Victory comes from finding opportunities in problems.” - Sun Tzu
  • "In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves... self-discipline with all of them came first." - Harry S Truman
  • "Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt
  • “Concentration and mental toughness are the margins of victory.” – Bill Russell
  • “To win one hundred victories in one hundred battles is not the acme of skill. To subdue the enemy without fighting is the acme of skill.”- Sun Tzu
  • "Victory is always possible for the person who refuses to stop fighting." - Napoleon Hill
  • "Invincibility lies in the defence; the possibility of victory in the attack." - Sun Tzu
  • “Where there is unity there is always victory.” – Publilius Syrus
  • “Victory is sweetest when you’ve known defeat.” – Malcolm Forbes

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  1. ↑ Conflict resolution Strategies, Indeed
  2. ↑ Hive Mind: The Synergistic Effects of Being Around Really Smart People by Steven Handel
  3. ↑ Highly intelligent grandiose narcissists are less prone to narcissistic rivalry, PsyPost, June 22, 2023
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